Imagine you’re trying to lose some weight and you’re about to forget what you were trying because your primal senses have picked up the scent of a Snickers bar, hiding from you behind a closed cupboard. The beast in you roars and your body is making happy hormones because it knows it’s getting sugary/fatty food.
What do you do?
A. Attack the cupboard. Rip paper from bar. Swallow whole (some chewing allowed). FEEL BAD AFTERWARDS
B. Ignore primal need for Snickers. Drink water instead. Eat a healthy cracker. FEEL GOOD AFTERWARDS.
Most of the time A. is what happens. Call it lack of discipline, call it sugar addiction. Call it weakness.
You’d be right.
Because if you go for B, you feel good afterwards. And if you go for B often enough it will become your default setting, and opting for A. isn’t so bad when it happens, because it’s an exception.
It’s a matter of self-discipline. And self-discipline is a muscle that can be trained. The only thing you need to focus on is the AFTERWARDS FEELING.
To do this we must learn to stretch our imagination into the near future and focus on the feeling yet to come.
Having trouble starting your story/drawing/whatever?
Imagine how you’d feel when it is finished. Got that feeling? Yes? Try to keep focusing on that.
Cut the goals in easy pieces. Want to lose weight? Then you only have to make sure you eat healthy today. Make choice B and forget about the Snickers (well, to be on the safe side, don’t buy Snickers, because Snickers ARE NOT EASY TO RESIST).
Want to write a story?
Write a page today, or scene today.
Want to exercise more?
Skip the elevator today. Walk around your block today.
Want to think about the environment more?
Recycle something today.
Everyday you self- discipline will grow, it will get easier to make decisions and you will become more confident. Step into the future of today and focus on the feeling you want to end up with.
Today is all you have.